3 Signs Of A Cheating Sweetheart

Do you think that your partner is cheating on you? Among the best ways to tell if your partner is cheating on you is to keep your eyes and ears open at all times. Using hidden camera gadgets and concealed audio recording devices could be a good way to obtain the proof you need. Did you know that a lot of the ladies who cheat leave lots of indicators along the way? To help get you on the right track right here are 3 indicators that your partner could be cheating on you.

1– Your Sweetheart Has Changed Her Appearance

Has your partner recently altered her appearance? Did she begin using contacts instead of glasses? Has she began showing more skin? If so, she could be cheating on you or she could want to begin cheating on you soon. This is since changes in appearance are commonly made to impress someone. If that person is not you, it will likely be another guy.

2– Your Sweetheart Stops Hanging Out With You

In the past, did you and your partner invest a lot of time together? Did you take pleasure in hanging out with her pals, going to films, or going to celebrations together? Are those days gone? If so, your relationship could be over and your partner could be cheating on you.

It is also crucial to analyze the pals of your partner. Do they act different to you? Do you still hangout with them as a group, like as much as in the begining? If not, your partner is most likely trying to keep her new charming interest a secret. When ladies attempt to juggle numerous relationships, they commonly confide in their pals. Keeping you away from those pals could be a defense mechanism.

3– A Rude Mindset

Did you know that some ladies will go as far as to begin a brand-new relationship without even breaking up with their sweetheart, like you? Some will do this just to be mean. If your partner flaunts her new relationship or if she is impolite to you, it is time for you to end the relationship.

Divorce and the Child Custody Evaluation

Divorce and the Child Custody Evaluation

Getting prepared for the Child Custody Evaluation can be nerve racking, but if you take these things into consideration they can guide to you toward a successful Child Custody hearing.

You should be friendly, sincere and candid in your approach toward the opposing attorney. You should the look at the psychological evaluation as if it is a job interview. You should never confide with psychologist. If you do, it may be used against you later. Answer the questions in short, brief, direct sentences. Never give more information than you have to.

You should not say anything against the other parent and his or her family. Show that you know your children and you know about their interests, hobbies, teachers, friends, their educational aims, etc. You should let the psychologist know about all the good qualities of your children. If the psychologist wants to know anything negative about the other parent, you should simply narrate an incident with the facts and stop at that, the psychologist needs to draw the conclusion.

You shouldn’t make any accusation regarding any type of abuse like physical, mental or sexual, until there is enough proof for the same. The psychologist can report to CYS for further investigation for child abuse, if you suspect child abuse, then you should report to CYS instead of making allegations, since false allegations can prove damaging to your reputation and this case as well.

You will require to prepare for the interactional sessions, for this you can bring games, food, homework, anything that might seem appropriate, you should not stray away from the target, you should also make a list of doctors, temples or churches, etc. schools, you should also be aware of any special need of your child and inform the doctor about how you are going to go about fulfilling this need.

So that you remain mentally strong, cool and collected you should get a good night’s sleep. You should pay the psychologist’s fees promptly and try to impress him since his report carries a lot of weight with the judge. In case the psychologist wanted additional information, you can send him information along with a short note about it. You should not call the psychologist unless he wishes so.

You should showcase the current needs of your children instead of focusing on the other parent’s failures. Since the contested Child Custody case is never a finality, you can modify the case and resulting Child Custody schedule at any time later.

Where To Spend The Holidays

Where To Spend The Holidays

A long standing argument between many couples is the one that comes up every time there’s a special holiday, such as Thanksgiving or Christmas. This is the debate about where the couple will be spending the holidays. It can get to be a pretty serious holiday spoiler if both partners have living relatives that they’re close to. It doesn’t have to be a nightmare every year, though.

For couples with their parents living in the same city or town, it’s not THAT big of an issue. You simply split up your day or, in the case of Christmas, two days. Christmas Eve can be spent at the home of one set of parents and Christmas Day can be spent at the other set’s home. The next year you can reverse it. Another way to handle this is to split up the day by spending the morning at one house and the evening at the other house. When you work things out with everyone ahead of time, this is usually a great way to handle it.

If you’ve got one set of parents living in one location and the other set living in another one, that can be a little more difficult. In this event, you’ll need to probably spend Thanksgiving in one place and Christmas with the other parents. Then you can reverse things the next year.

Of course, one way to deal with this issue may be to simply host the holidays at YOUR home. In that way, everyone can be happy because all of you will be together in the same place for the holidays. Now, there can be a few things that will throw a monkey wrench into things. Maybe the in-laws don’t get along with each other or with you. One of the parents may not be healthy enough to travel and that can be a problem. That would mean that you and your partner would have to travel to them at least once during the year.

The main thing is that you and your partner can work out something that will amenable to everyone. People don’t always work together, though. For instance, your partner’s mother may not like you and will refuse to give in gracefully as to sharing the holidays. There’s not a lot you can do in that situation other than let your partner handle her. Hopefully, he’ll have both of your best interests at heart when he does so.

There may be instances where you and your partner will need to spend the holidays apart in order to spend them with parents and other family members. It’s not the ideal situation since couples should be able to spend the holidays together whether their parents are a part of the celebration or not. The thing to remember is that this is something that everyone must cooperate on or people end up being upset and angry. Sadly, sharing and cooperation are things that even parents need to be taught. If this is part of your situation, don’t hesitate to explain the word “fairness.” It can be your Christmas gift to them.

Stop Jumping From The Frying Pan Into The Fire

Stop Jumping From The Frying Pan Into The Fire

So many people coming out of broken relationships do the one thing that they should never, ever do. They instantly rebound into another relationship before they’ve had time to possibly begin healing from the last one. There are so many reasons not to do this that volumes have been written to help people stop themselves before taking that leap.

One of the biggest reasons that this should be avoided at all costs is that you usually end up with someone very similar to the person you’re no longer with.

What this translates to is that you’re going from one terrible relationship and diving headfirst right into another one. Since you’ve hardly had time to recover from that last relationship, you’re going to automatically be drawn to someone that reminds you of your ex. This can be from a physical standpoint, or the way he speaks, or certain mannerisms that he has that remind you of your ex. It’s not only possible to do this, but it happens all the time.

A couple of great examples of this were covered in episodes from two of the funniest sit coms of all times. Friends had Rachel dating a guy named Russ when she still very much wanted to be with Ross. Of course, these two looked, talked and acted identically because they were both played by actor David Schwimmer. Even though makeup was used to change the physical appearances somewhat, the actions were really similar. Everyone saw this except Rachel until it was pointed out to her what she had done. On the show Frasier, an actor closely resembling the character Niles was brought in as someone that Daphne hooked up with briefly. She never did see what she had done, but Niles certainly did.

This is all to make the point that you must be careful not to jump from the frying pan into the fire when you’ve just come out of a relationship. Give yourself the time you need to heal and fully move on from your ex. When you allow enough time to go by before re-entering the dating arena, you’ll find that it’s much easier to find someone that will not even come close to the man you left in the dust. You’ll be able to keep your eyes open for others that will intrigue you and tap into different parts of you.

When you reach the point where you’re able to be drawn to someone completely different than your ex, that’s when you’re ready to start dating again. Now, you can give yourself the chance to appreciate new qualities in men that might actually be better for you than your ex. You’ll see the differences and notice how they make your life happier. The problems in your past relationship happened for a reason. You certainly don’t want to repeat any part of that pattern in your new relationship. That’s why you just have to let things go, allow yourself to fully heal, and then move as far away from the past as you can.

Divorce and Rowing to Emotional Recovery

Divorce and Rowing to Emotional Recovery

Late summer of ’95. Bent over, arms on knees, resting, trying to recover from a long hard row against the tidal current. Pleased with this not-so-easy accomplishment. Too bad there wasn’t an audience, someone to do the clapping, to deliver accolades. She is no longer here, my wife. Perhaps she is with him right now. Having a morning coffee, or sharing a shower.

Back then, before the recovery, I was adrift and afloat in self-pity. Wondering for the hundredth time. What did I do to deserve this? Why me? Why did our friends abandon me too? The questions unanswered, floating out to sea, then sinking.

It’s was like this for a while, owning this deep feeling of loss and hope. Still expecting her to show up at our favourite dock-side restaurant, her smile radiating, her arms open. At home the deck lights were always on, waiting her return. Sitting at the window, watching the rain, waiting for the taxi.

The emotional steps leading from the first shock of betrayal to the cleansing action of divorce is similar to the steps dealing with death. And in the early stages I sometimes preferred death. Friends tried to help with their professional advice, mostly they said it will get better with time. “You’ll be fine.” “You just need time to heal” That was a good one, like if it were only as simple as a broken leg, or hole in the hull. Those I could fight, those I could understand. Friends told me about:

– Denial
– Anger , resentment and fear
– Withdrawal and grieving
– Acceptance
– Action

Did I listen then? I said I did, but in the early stages it’s impossible. Months later, visiting a friend in a hospital room I found myself saying the same things. My words sounding terribly false and hollow against his real pain, his discomfort and fear. “You’ll be fine” In his case, like mine, it was true, we both recovered.

I remember my anger, experiencing it as feeling down or depressed. Left unresolved, this anger could have ruined my career, business opportunities and my health. All of these feelings lowered my sense of self-worth and self-esteem. At this point, motivation and drive to try new things disappeared, resulting in less and less confidence in my abilities.

I began to worry and over-think, creating feelings of anxiety. I worried about many things, especially not ever letting anyone into my life. I could justify being a castaway, safely at anchor, alone. I continued to have work problems and developed a sleep disorder. I found comfort in plotting fanciful revenge. If left unchecked this pattern would continue into a downward spiral, creating more fear, more anger or depression lower self-esteem and more worry and anxiety.

The simple truth is that I had a good marriage with a good wife. She left. Yes I had generous feelings of betrayal; how could she do this to me? I had constant feelings of loss. Driving our car, turning to see the passenger seat empty would fill me with unseen tears. Somehow things changed for me; sure the counseling helped, but mostly the change happened when I finally gave myself permission to move on. To accept things for what they are, to accept the new opportunities, to see the door open, not closed.

I dreaded the thought of divorce. I had worried about divorce for a long time before I had the nerve and courage to take this final action. I spend many nights saying it was OK to do it, then I’d put it off for one good reason after another. I told myself the money was too tight, knowing the lie. I told myself I would do it after the holidays, or maybe next month, or next week.

Intellectually I was aware of the immediate benefits of getting divorced, and since there was nobody seeking my hand I kept postponing, procrastinating. The day I filed my divorce papers was a day of discovery. I discovered relief from anxiety and a freedom I did not expect. The day I filed was a day of new beginnings, a day of new life.