If you’ve had a breakup, you’re probably either trying to find a way to get over them, or how to mend a broken heart. Neither is very easy, but most people fall to one side or the other, with only a hand full able to get past it and quickly without wishing things could be changed. You must really think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were then and how they will be now. Try to be as unbiased as you can. You might decide that the break up really isn’t a bad idea for what you want.
If you think that you want to try to mend your broken relationship, the first step is to apologize. You might think you’ve done this already. You might have said you were sorry many times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to prevent a breakup, he or she might not feel the apology was real.
If you were the one who did something that you need to apologize for, apologize again. Now they might think the apology is genuine, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you will not be saying it only to try to save it but they will believe that you are being genuine. (And hopefully, you do.)
If your ex is the one who did something that they should apologizing for, then rather than try to get a sincere apology from them, you must forgive them. You might never forget what happened, especially if your break up was because of infidelity, but you must learn how to forgive. Learning to forgive is a lot harder for some of us than merely saying, “I forgive you,” though, so you may want to look at reading a book or two on forgiveness and how to make sure that you are sincere. If you want to mend a broken relationship, this step will help you do it. And it can help prevent problems in the future, too.
Also, to mend a broken relationship, show the person the “you” that made them fall in love with you in the first place, not the “you” that drove them to dumping you. They were with you because you have certain qualities—kindness, thoughtfulness—not because you’re angry, jealous or hurt. While you might not be able to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best “you” you can possibly be and you may win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you in the first place.
Are You Trying To Mend A Breakup?
Are You Trying To Mend A Breakup?
