Three Main Reasons Why Men Dump Women
Three Main Reasons Why Men Dump Women
No-one likes to get dumped and women in particular will take a big dive in self esteem if a man dumps her. Being dumped is never fun but it is even more devastating if you really love the guy. The end of a relationship will cause many emotions including pain, anger and hurt.
At one time it seemed that it was usually women that dumped the men but tables have turned a little and it seems more and more often that men are the ones doing the dumping. Some women will find themselves dumped and alone and have no idea what went wrong. Men are much more laid back than woman and may move on to another relationship without much thought, but women are much more emotional and can be devastated when a man moves on. To avoid finding yourself in this situation, here are the three main reasons why men dump women.
1. Lack of Communication
All relationships need good communication to be successful. A lack of communication can ultimately lead to the end of a relationship. Although women are generally better communicators than men, lack of communication is often one of the main reasons why men dump women.
2. Women Being Too Demanding
Women can be quite demanding and many men just can’t handle that. If you are a controlling woman and feel that you need to control everything in your relationships, even your man, then don’t be surprised if he will only put up with it for so long until he has had enough. Men are individuals and have their own opinions and they have every right to express those opinions and to have some control. If a man has to live by too many rules laid out by the woman they will begin to feel too much pressure and not enough freedom to do the things that they love to do. If you try to stop your man from doing the things he enjoys, like watching guy stuff on TV or going out with his mates, then he will soon begin to resent you for this. Many men will get fed up with having too much demand put on them and will end the relationship.
3. Women Smothering Men
Some women, particularly those with low self esteem, can be very clingy with their man and rely on him for everything. Men do like to feel needed and like the ‘hero’ role, but not when it is constant. If you become so clingy that you hang off your man constantly and can’t do anything without his approval or help then it can put a lot of pressure on the man. A women needs to have some independence, just as a man does. She needs to be able to take some control and make some decisions on her own. He needs to be able to go out somewhere on her own without needing her man to be by her side constantly. Men do love attention and love being able to protect and care for their women, but it goes too far if the woman becomes obsessed with her smothering of him.
Of course it isn’t always the men that dump women; it can be the other way around. There are also other reasons why relationships fail but these three reasons are quite high on the list of reasons why men dump women. If you find that you fall into one of these three categories then you will want to learn from your mistakes and not repeat them in any future relationships.
Letting Go Of A Relationship
Letting Go Of A Relationship
Letting go of a relationship can be one of the hardest things you ever have to do in your life. Hopefully you knew it was coming and didn’t get blindsided by it. If you did know it was coming then letting go will be a little easier. If you were blindsided then right now you feel as if you were hit by a Mack truck, twice.
You are hurt, you are angry and now you have questions. How could I not see this coming? What did I do wrong? What could I have done differently? Why are you doing this? Unfortunately, these are questions that may never get answered. And if they do get answered you might not like what you hear so maybe it’s best if they stay unanswered.
Dealing with the end of a relationship is much like dealing with a death in the family. There is a grieving process you must go through when letting go of a relationship, especially if it was a long-term relationship spanning several years. You might consider a counselor, support group or both to help advise you along the grieving journey. Ask for referrals from family or friends and keep them close for moral support, your church pastor will give you spiritual guidance, or just pick a counselor out of the yellow pages if you want to keep things private and not air your ‘dirty laundry’ so to speak.
Sometimes the pain you feel is so intense you don’t think you can handle it so you push it down and deny your feelings. Then one day you cannot hold them in any longer and all those feelings come out as anger. Anger at the one who broke off the relationship or even anger at yourself for letting yourself get blindsided. When the anger subsides you may start to feel some guilt because you got so angry and maybe said or did something you now regret. To try to get relief from the emotional pain you may attempt to bargain with your higher power. Then all of a sudden one day you wake up and the sun is shining and you find yourself able to accept your new life and smile again for the first time in a long time.
When you finally learn to accept your fate then you can start to put the pieces of your life back together. Life does go on. Take each day as it comes and realize you had the strength to get through a tough situation. Be proud of yourself. Take some time to find out who you are and don’t jump right back into another relationship right away. Enjoy your new found freedom, take up a new hobby or learn a new skill. Just be who you are for a while, not who someone else thinks you should be. Be as kind to yourself as you can be and you may find that letting go of that relationship was the best thing for you.
The Five Stages Of Relationships There Is No Way Around It
The Five Stages Of Relationships There Is No Way Around It
There are generally five stages of a relationship with the first being when you first meet. When you first meet someone and start dating, everything is new and exciting. Many years ago this stage was referred to as ‘courting’ but these days we just say we are dating or seeing someone.
During this first stage you can’t seem to get enough of one another and will spend a lot of time together. This is great because this is all part of getting to know each other. You will be floating on cloud nine during this stage and because you feel so happy, everything around you seems much different. You will walk arm in arm or holding hands and will probably steal a kiss whenever you can. You don’t really think of anything else except for your new love. This first stage can last anywhere from a couple of weeks to a few months.
The second stage of a relationship begins when you start to become more comfortable with one another. The newness begins to wear off a little as you begin to be comfortable and start to trust one another. The fun and excitements is still there and during this time you may become intimate with one another.
When the relationship becomes intimate then this adds a whole new excitement to the relationship as you get to know what each other likes and wants. If communication between the two of you is easy and natural then you should find it easy to talk about your sexual relationship. This is a time that is a lot of fun when you are figuring out what you like to do together and you may even decide to experiment with things you have never done before.
During the third stage of a relationship you become very comfortable with one another, you know each other very well and have developed respect and trust for one another. At this point in time you may decide to move in together. As much as you love each other, moving in together is a big change and you need to keep open the lines of communication to ensure a smooth transition.
When you decide to move in together you should discuss some ground rules first. There is no point moving in and then finding out that you both have completely different rules and expectations. You might want to discuss things like what roles you play, what chores each person is responsible for, and any other expectations you have. It is best to know this up front and then decide whether you want to live together.
The fourth stage of a relationship is planning your future together and getting married. You need to continue with the good communication skills as this stage does take some planning and planning weddings and futures can be stressful. Other than the wedding there are other important decisions to make like whether you want children, whether you want to buy a house together etc.
Stage five has two options and how you handle stage four may determine which path you will take toward stage five. The two paths of stage five are ‘happily ever after’ and ‘divorce’. If you plan your future well and communicate well with one another then there is no reason why your stage five can’t be happily ever after. Too many people these days end up with divorce as their stage five and quite often that could be avoided if they had better communication.
Mending A Broken Heart-Every Being Can Suffer A Broken Heart
Mending A Broken Heart-Every Being Can Suffer A Broken Heart
It’s a pretty safe bet that many members of the animal kingdom feel various emotions. There is even strong evidence to suggest that some species care deeply for members of their family group, yet it’s hard to imagine that any animal could have the same depth of affection as people do. Being in love is one of the strongest emotions there is. Even though love is a marvelous thing, there are some downsides to it. First, love can cloud your judgment; preventing you from seeing things as they are. Second, love doesn’t always last and that can lead to intense heart break that may seem like it will never end. If this sounds familiar to you, then you can take comfort in knowing that mending a broken heart is possible.
However, you need to stay grounded in reality. The truth is that while you can mend your heartache, it’s rarely easy, and it will take some time before you return to feeling normal. That being said, it is worth the effort when you consider the alternative of not fixing the problem.
The funny thing about a broken heart is that you won’t always feel like it’s broken. There will be times when you feel sad, no doubt, but there will also be times that you feel guilty, angry or even relieved. But, until you are completely over your former partner, you can be sure that there is some heart break playing a role in your emotions. So, how do you go about mending a broken heart?
To be blunt, you need to confront the problem. While you may be able to take temporary comfort in denial, it will only delay things from getting better. You have to be completely honest with yourself and how you feel.
Being honest is the only way you will be able to work things out. It won’t be easy, but you need to figure out why you feel so heartbroken. Do you feel betrayed by your ex? Do you feel you betrayed them? Was there a death? Were they unfaithful? Do you feel guilty? Do you think you could have done more? Do you think you did all you could, and just can’t understand why you broke up anyway? Whatever it is, identifying the real problem is the key to solving it.
Once you have figured out what the root of your broken heart is, you can fix it. For example, if you’re feeling guilty, then you need to forgive yourself. But if it was something your partner did, then you need to forgive them. You have to be willing to do whatever it is that needs to be done.
You also need to be realistic about mending a broken heart. Because it isn’t always easy, you may not be able to do it on your own. If you find you’re just not getting any better, then it may be time to seek help from a counselor…again, whatever it takes. Give it time and face it head on, and you will be feeling better before you know it.
I Need Relationship Help
I Need Relationship Help
If you’re thinking to yourself, “I think I need relationship help”, then you probably do. When things start to go south in a relationship, it seems that the last person you want to go to for help is also the one you should be talking to the most, your partner. Communication is essential in any relationship and when it breaks down it can sometimes be hard to get back but it’s not impossible.
Start by making a list of the things in your relationship that are bothering you. No matter what it is, be honest and don’t just make it all about the other person. Relationships take two to work or not work and if you are feeling bad about your relationship, so is your partner. When you’ve made your list, invite your partner to discuss the problems you’ve outlined.
During your talk, keep in mind to never, ever lay blame on the other person. Never start a sentence with, ‘YOU’ do this or ‘YOU’ do that. Start your sentences with, ‘I FEEL’ this and ‘I FEEL’ that. The only thing laying blame will accomplish is making your partner feel they have to defend themselves, probably start a fight and defeat the whole purpose of trying to improve your relationship. So be open and honest about your concerns but never be hurtful.
Make sure to ask your partner how they feel about the direction your relationship is heading. Find out what they think they need and/or want from you to make your relationship successful and then voice your own concerns, wants and needs.
If talking things through doesn’t seem to help, then it may be time to consult an ‘I need relationship help’ professional. That doesn’t mean your mother or your brother or your sister, aunt, uncle or cousin. Keep things between you private, the less input you get from biased sources the easier it will be to resolve the aspects of your relationship that need to be resolved. Families tend to take sides and that will only stoke the fire.
When you’ve talked about things and feel you both are ready to start seeing a relationship counselor, if you do, make a list (or take the one you’ve already made) of things to discuss. The relationship counselor will help you both sort things out and keep them in perspective. They know the right questions to ask and what buttons to push to get you thinking and can keep the discussion heading in the right direction.
A relationship counselor will give you exercises, or homework, to teach yourselves the art of communication outside his or her office. Follow what he or she tells you closely. Who knows, you may begin to have so much fun learning how to communicate with each other some of the problems your were facing may just fade away. It’s all perception and if your perception changes and you are seeing things from both sides instead of just your own, then maybe you could stop thinking ‘I need relationship help’.
